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Does it matter? The question is for a future self to answer. The present self is not dead. The present self needs to answer this: what of value are you doing right now?


This is a beautiful question. A couple of the responses made me tear up simply from the descriptive imaginations the words conjure up.

I'm thankful for this blog in letting my imagination soar to that place and time. It gives a lot of meaning to right now.

I agree with the first response to the question. Even the thought process of coming up with an answer is revealing in how you choose to life your life right now. In retrospect, after thinking about what death means to you, it should give you more enlightment on what life means to you.


we seem to know what happens to the physical bodies when people die. so the heart of the question really is what happens to our spirit and/or soul and/or consciousness when we die.

this is what i think i know. i am alive. i am not dead. when people i know die i cease to be able to interact with them and share human experience with them.

the lack of my own personal experience with dying means i cannot adequately answer the question and any answer i could give would be conjecture.

which begs another question: does anyone alive have any experience with dying?

alive is not dead. so do people who have near death experiences really die? (a doctor calling time of death may perhaps just be perceived death, not actual death). i imagine the answer to be either a yes or a no.

a yes would possibly confirm or support the near death experience stories so many close to death have shared.

a no would probably confirm or support a medical explanation to these stories, i.e., the mind, in a dream-like state, concocts or interprets brain stimuli and creates these stories.

a no brings us back to the former dilemma: how can we answer truthfully a question with which we have no first hand experience? unless truth itself is meaningless. perhaps the value of death is only what it means to us while we are alive.

to me death is what is not now. it is the end of my current experience. it is the end of my current existence. at this present time i have no conjecture as to what is beyond my now.

Josh and Lewis

Josh and I had a great conversation about these things and more on our own blog. This link is right to the point. Sorry to try and ape your topic, but I thought some people might be interested anyway.

Mark S.

At the moment of death you do one of two things. You either stop growing or continue rotting. The real question lies in which of those two categories you fall into.

Jason W.

Well, though I love coming up with different ideas and theories on the subject I like to think that it's different depending on the person. I think that if there is any kind of "heaven" that our souls go to after we die, it'd be tailored to what you would enjoy. Being surrounded by family, friends, loved ones, in an environment which you feel comfortable in... I would definately need a movie theater :D
When I was a kid I used to think about death way too much. I was a little child and I would think myself into a loop about what would happen when I died, what it would feel like, if there was anything after, if you would have a mind or thoughts still, but how could you have thoughts if you had no brain? etc. etc. (you get the idea) and I would feel hot and start to panic until I forced myself to do something to distract me. But hey, now I just see it as the one adventure that we can't take while we're alive, so in a way I'm kinda' looking forward to finding out :)

Jake S.

First off, let me say that I am an athiest. When I let my family know this, they took it very selfishly, as if I had let them down, and this only confirmed to me my view of religion, at least the afterlife aspects of religion. It's a selfish idealism rooted in a fear that has plagued mankind since we learned to change the world as we see fit. The fear of death. A squirrel has its time on earth, and never seems to question it, nor does a bee. It makes its existence the only way it knows how to.
So as we squander the time we have here on earth seeking material possesions, we explain ourselves by hoping theres an eternal sunshine exactly how we imagine it. This all seems really silly and selfish to me. Think the egyptians, who buried themselves surrounded by the things they had acquired in life, thinking they could take these material things with them to an eternal life, where you wouldnt have to question morals or ideas, or the the only idea absolute in biological life, it eventually ceases so that newer and more fit life can exist. I forget who wrote the poem, but it was about Ramses, who spent a lifetime enslaving and forcing people to build monuments celebrating his "greatness". These monuments only crumbled, washed away in the sands of time.
To answer the question posed here: you awaken and look at the clock, it reads 7:04. You shut your eyes and fall back into that state were the neurons are just slightly firing and your somewhere in the back of your mind, the part you shut off when you have to start thinking about that never ceasing clock. You dream of an adventure, maybe its similar to a vacation you once took when you were a kid. You see faces that have long since passed, you see your family and friends as they are today acting out themselves far in the past. It seems like a span of time of several hours, and days, and periods in your life. Suddenly you awake, the clock reads 7:08.


Whatever you think is going to happen, will.

If you think you will be reborn as an ant, you will.

If youthink you will become light and energy of the whole that is God, you will

If you think nothing happens, ............

So, have a plan for what you want in your next adventure.


Whatever you think is going to happen, will.

If you think you will be reborn as an ant, you will.

If youthink you will become light and energy of the whole that is God, you will

If you think nothing happens, ............

So, have a plan for what you want in your next adventure.

hot ron scorcher

you drink english breakfast tea with a little honey and milk out of a green mug while listening to Getz/Gilberto and sitting on a pier or somewhere near the sea.


I used to be a nurse and had several patients who were athiest, become believers in a God, after their near death experience. I will have to agree with Danila


Nothing, you just decay.


I believe it is like just like those who explain their near death experience. That our spirit leaves our body and looks down on it with a tremendous amount of peace. Seeing and connecting to the light(energy) of love. Our lives passing in front of our eyes. Makes sense. Freud says dreams unlock the key to our subconscious. So our hopes and fears come out in our dreams. Basically what is on our conscience. I believe when we die, our consciousness follows us, looking at our life in detail; where we did good, and where we went wrong. Hence many people return when they realize their purpose is not yet fulfilled. In spiritual terms, we know our purpose. In life, we struggle to "see" this, because of all the earthly distractions. I believe we come from all the same energy of love - God. And we return to it when we die. If someone is very evil in life, they will return to that energy. In short - I believe in eternity, but not "heaven" as people think it is. No earthly things, just energy and love.

Aurore N.

I've asked myself that question numerous times. I work with the dead and the grieving on a day to day basis as a funeral director and apprentice embalmer. Understanding that we all face the ultimate destiny which is death, I can only speak of what I experience, not what "they", the departed do. I have many philosophies and musings about reality, sentient and non-sentient, but I do tend to agree with Michelle F., in that perhaps after we pass from our bodies we still are capable of perception on a mental level. What we dream may very well hold the key to a reality outside of the body and physical life. This mental energy could be an on-going, evolving process of our former selves and our life here on earth. The Tibetan Buddhists speak of this transition in detail. When I embalm, dress, and casket the dead I am always curious about what kind of human being they were and what experiences they must have had. From meeting families I often get info about their deceased loved one, but no one can truly understand the soul of another. Death is one of the greatest mysteries of life...perhaps one of the most challenging to comprehend. One day we all will know, won't we. Until that time...keep up the good work!


After you die, after you die? I hate this question.
You disintegrate into nothingness is probably what happens. You cease to be.
And yet, somehow, I can not conceive of ceasing to be and so need a salutary explanation of a next.
I suppose I think the individual splits into different elements and each is carried onto its next existence. There is no intactness of the individual. This life, the life lived, sends a portion to somewhere like a heaven, which is really a giant record keeper of lives -- a list in multiple dimensions of sorts. You can hang out and talk with anyone in this part of things. You retain your memories, perhaps.
Part must stay behind on earth to tie up loose ends -- impart messages to the living, watch over those in need and comfort them, be an angel, I suppose, on earth, like in the Wim Wenders film Wings of Desire.
And part must reincarnate into a new life, taking with its experiences in hopes of reaching a kind of nirvana, a reunification with the one.
It is tough. I am not convinced of any one answer.


I think you wake up yourself in a different situation, the kind that you know you were once a part of but forgot to finish.. things come naturally, and you begin living your life without really knowing whether or not you did just wake up from a weird dream..its like being born. I mean, when did you start realizing things.. at what age? your answer will most likely be when you started remembering.. and who really remembers everything clearly at the beginning.. you just start living.


I'm not a student of psychology or human development or any of these brainy topics, I'm only 23 and have no clue what I'm doing with myself. I am however a student of life and what I have learned is this: Einstein said that everything is matter and energy. We are bundles of energy and matter, we are fueled and run by energy and you cannot in no way shape or form destroy that. So the question more important becomes, where does it go when the matter can longer be fueled? I read an earlier posting that said simply,"after you die the energy within your brain cells ground into the environment all around you. into the earth, whence it came.nothing more, nothing less." It's so true. We naturally want to romatasize death since the notion that really "nothing" happens when we die seems so dull and un-appealing. So it's fine to think that we go on, we meet up with loves ones who also have passed on. Why not? These thoughts fuel our passions, it makes life easier to know that it's not for nothing.


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Two out of three is not bad.


Zack T

As someone else said...there is no way to know. It all depends on a person's gut feeling of what death is, until death itself comes. Then no one really knows. The question use to really bother me as a child, inciting me to uncontrollable crying because there was "nothing" waiting for me. Just as the the unknown, a pure blackness, is the most deeply sown human fear, death is at its core. Did that make any sense?


blissful solitude of a forgotten dream

david allen aguayo sr.

after you die the energy within your brain cells ground into the environment all around you. into the earth, whence it came.nothing more, nothing less.


As a general member of a Paranormal Research Society, I have experienced plenty of odd and unexplainable phenomenon. However to say exactly what happens when we die is almost unexplainable simply because...well we are not dead. My theory is that while the body is not functioning the mind ans spirit are still alive...therefore we do not truly die. There are 3 classes of hauntings that we generally invesigate... Intelligent hauntings (these spirits seem to be aware of pur presence and can see and interact with us), replay hauntings (this is pretty much a reoccuring haunt where the spirit seems to never realize they are dead and walk about there lives as if they were still alive), and the inhuman(yes, there are demons! They are real! and they are much stronger and more malevolent then traditional spirits). I think that many spirits are trapped in limbo between heaven and hell (assuming it exists) without ever knowing that they have passed. Others perhaps choose not to go to the other side and stay here close to family and friends or places that they love dearly. These are my theories on spirits existence after death and there is no factual evidence to back this up. Our organization is working hard to produce evidence of spirits and the existence of ghosts and demons.

Vox Ominous

Perhaps, just as the body decomposes and its parts eventually become pieces of new things, so does the soul. And perhaps each piece of the body has a corresponding segment of spirit to which it is inexorably attached. Or not. Perhaps the two exist entirely independantly of each other... the thing about the question" what happens when we die," is that NO ONE can know. All we can do is theorize. My question has always been: "Who cares?"


My ego tells me that our consciousness continues to exist after our bodies fail, I've even had experiences that would lead me to believe as such. But it is not logical. We probably just die and feed the plants we are buried under. No transference of consciousness to an energy form. String Theory raises some questions though, and I have heard legimate voice recordings of persons that were not present to the naked eye....or were they just time/energy impressions left onto objects? I am fearful of one day simply no longer existing in any form that I wouldn't be aware of. I am fearful of simply not existing one day. I would be better prepared to face that day if we had more knowledge, whichever answer it would be.


this scares me and sometimes makes me very emotional. my dad passed away and since then so have his brothers, and other people i have known. never have i been to so many funerals. some may say that it's part of life and that it's an eventuality.... so be it, but if you really stop to think about it, it's sad and to me very perplexing and disheartening. i didn't ask to be born, i am thrown into the maelstrom of life, and then i have no real say in it's denouement and eventual ending. of course there is the possiblity of an afterlife, but think about that, an "AFTER-LIFE"... why isn't it called the 'Post Physical Life' or our 'Spritual Time' or something less definite. i look at it this way, you are around, in your physical form, to hear, taste, touch, see, feel and otherwise sense as mush as you can, then after you die physically, your that way for a very long time, forever. i would like to believe that there is some rationale for this, but i don't see it. of late i have been turning to philosophy and a bit of religion, and i try to live a just life, taking only what i need and hopefully giving some back as well... but i am scared... scared of getting old, scared of having children, scared of getting ill, eroding, and dying, and i don't think there is a comforting way to deal with it. my dad is dead and everytime i see my mom i wonder when she may pass...as i am sure she does. my bro is turing 50 and my sis is not far behind and it bothers me that we will all have to die...why? i simply don't get it and when i think of passing on (whatever that means?)... it makes me want to cry because life is a trip whose ending i am not ready for. there is so much to do and see that our lifetime is certainly not enough to even scratch the surface - that's what i really have a problem with, what to do with the time i still have left... so i live a bit vicariously, move around a bit, see place, meet people, before i won't be able to do anymore. it's sad, i'm sad and i wish i could live much longer, maybe 150 - 200 years would be a good age, you could witness a lot of changes, see the world and maybe space, learn so much more.... don't you think? death is scary and i don't like to think about it, but i do, because everyday i lose another day while getting a bit closer to my end.

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